Here's to the Daughters on Mother's Day

For some of us Mother's Day presents an unwelcome, unavoidable obligation to reflect on how we were mothered and our current relationship with our mothers and ourselves because of it.  Perhaps even, how we have ourselves mothered because of how we were mothered.  
A mother's role in the lives of tiny humans, young children, young adult children and beyond is pivotal.  Never have we been in a time in history where there has been so much science attached to the study and explanation of parent/child attachment.  And so many in the mental health community echoing those studies as vital to the proper development of a tiny human into a healthy, well adjusted adult.    

Some of us didn't get healthy mothering as tiny humans.  Some of us have had to reinvent ourselves and work incredibly hard to learn how this affected us and what behaviours it still causes in our lives - be they healthy or not.  This seems to be a lifelong exploration of oneself!  (In my experience anyway.)  

I came across this article on Facebook today and read through it twice.  I can relate to much of what is written here.  I'll leave you with it.    

Here's to the daughters that weren't mothered.  Here's to the women who work through unimaginable pain to discover what was lost to them.  Here's to the mothers who bravely face the unknown depth of a void created for them, in hopes that their daughters can leave childhood more whole.  
I am in this fight with you, right alongside you in the trenches of self-discovery.  I salute you.  We fight for our daughters, for all daughters, in the hopes that they never have to follow in these footsteps.  


 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/05/the-mothers-day-taboo-when-mama-aint-so-great/