Hey, People. Guess what. Respect and trust are something that children
(no matter what age) do not, I repeat, do NOT owe their parents.
Respect and trust are earned. If your children (no matter what age) do
not respect and trust you, 2 things, you are not being respectable or
trustworthy and you are not showing them respect and trust. I promise.
Children learn how to navigate through this world by behaviour modeled
by their parents. Not by verbal lectures from their parents.
Good, loving, kind behaviour is best modeled. If you want your
children (no matter what age) to act like a loving, kind, decent person,
you are going to have to put in the work and be one yourself.
Children (no matter what age) are not animated objects to be broken,
scared, oppressed, manipulated and bullied into a place of obedient
submission. (No matter what an archaic, barbaric book says about it!)
They are fully conscious, fully aware, fully sovereign human beings.
They are human beings. Human. Beings.
Let's stop expecting
(which is a mistake unto itself) behaviour from our children that we are
not even willing to rise to ourselves. Stop it. Just, stop it. Be
the kind of person that you want your children to be to the rest of the
world.
Let's stop shaking our heads in bewilderment at "this
generation" and its supposed flaws, and have the humility to recognize
that the current generations can only be what the previous ones
cultivated them to be. Stop it. Just, stop it. Be the kind of person
that you want to meet out in the rest of the world.
Let's stop
expecting (again, huge mistake) and hoping that everyone else will make
the world a better place. Let's stop demanding that our children behave
as we say and not as we do. And let's just start doing and being it
ourselves.
Society starts at home. It starts with me. And it starts with you.
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